I'm a British Indian. I was born to two Indians who found refuge in the UK, having fled their homes in Uganda during the 70s expulsion. I grew up in the north of England before choosing to make London my home, 18 years ago. Like other cross-cultural kids, I feel I've been given a feast of social norms, rituals, perspectives and values to choose from — plus all of the beautiful confusion that comes with making those choices.

My core value is love. At the centre of my life is family and community. My husband and best friend, Bikram, and my dog, Rafiki, remind me every day that life doesn't have to be so serious and there's always time to roll around in the grass. I'm a woman and a sister. Two words that go to the core of my identity. My brothers and sisters-in-law inspire me every day.

I'm someone who's learnt that the relationship with myself was the most under-invested relationship of my life. I've changed that and I'm forever grateful to those who helped me find myself. Throughout my career, I've had different coaches who helped me pause and pushed me to act. I wouldn't have joined EF if it wasn't for one coach. I wouldn't have left to start this practice if it wasn't for another.

I'm obsessed with invisible operating systems. Cultures, laws, stories, beliefs and social norms. These forces govern our lives. Becoming conscious of mine means I can choose.

I'm a shameless optimist. I've been through challenges, like all of us. Caring for those I love as they navigated chronic depression. Experiencing two pregnancy losses, which I've written about here. Dancing with life's curveballs has taught me to choose optimism whenever I can.